Secrets to a Lasting Marriage

It might be hard to believe, but people can still achieve a lasting marriage in a time where divorce is becoming more and more prevalent. However, with love, trust and understanding, you can celebrate a long marriage with your loved one, and well into the golden years.

Communication

Any successful relationship needs strong communication. Always be open and honest with your partner. If something is bothering you, let your partner know. Nothing good comes from bottling up your emotions and not speaking about how you feel. A strong foundation and an understanding relationship, starts with healthy communication. This starts with never being afraid to speak up. That means discussing and communicating your feelings when it comes to not just the little things, but the important things too such as values and money. Never make excuses to not be open or let your partner know how you feel. Remember, it is a two-way street. Not only should you be open to communication, you should encourage your partner to be open as well. Make them feel comfortable talking to you about their feelings as well as listening to yours.

Respect

On top of communication, always treat your partner with respect. You should treat everyone with respect, but this is especially true in a marriage. Respect also includes trust. Trust starts with being honest and also plays a role in strong communication. If you can’t be honest with your partner, than there is an issue. This is also true if you can’t trust partner. Listening to your partner and trusting what they say will help you avoid many fights as well as unwanted emotions. Mixed emotions and getting upset can lead to even more issues like losing your trust and even breaking down your communication, which could lead to an end in your marriage.

Learn it’s ok to fight

Disagreements are bound to happen in a marriage and sometime they lead to fights. First off, know that it is ok to disagree and get in little fights with your partner, that actually helps with building a strong marriage. If you can’t disagree or get in arguments with your partner, then there is no trust, understanding and obviously a lack of communication. When fighting, still remember to be open with your communication, show respect and be understanding to your partner. Also, never hold grudges! It has been said to never go to bed angry and this is true for a lasting marriage. Talk things out, but also choose your battles wisely. You never want to fight over small things as they could get blown out of proportion and actually cause harm to your marriage. Some fights are just not worth the battle.

If you and your partner are struggling with these things and see it affecting your marriage negatively, it is not too late. You can always get help and counseling to work out the kinks. This is actually advised to do before you make any final decisions with your marriage. Regain.us can help you find out if counseling is the right option for your marriage and where you can find nearby marriage counselors.