It is estimated that between 20% and 30% of men suffer from premature ejaculation, also known as rapid ejaculation, premature climax or early ejaculation, regularly. With 1 in 3 men experiencing it at least once in their life.
There are several physical and psychological reasons a man may experience premature ejaculation. Physical reasons can include prostate problems, thyroid problems and using recreational drugs. Psychological reasons can include depression, stress, relationship problems, muscle tension caused by some sexual positions, sensory overload or anxiety about sexual performance.
Premature ejaculation can also be broken down into two types:
- Primary/lifelong – where premature ejaculation has always been an issue
- Secondary/acquired – where premature ejaculation simply happens sometimes or has become an issue in later life
It can often be distressing and/or frustrating for the person suffering and also for their partner if they have one. Therefore, they may endeavour to find a premature ejaculation cure or at least ways to treat the issue before seeking medical intervention or help.
Ways To Control Premature Ejaculation
There are several ways to control premature ejaculation, these include:
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Ejaculation Control
For men who ejaculate under 3 minutes during penetrative sexual intercourse an ejaculation control device is a possible option. They offer a realistic sensation of penetration. Through an app, users can complete activities and challenges. The combination of device and app allows users to achieve climax control and has also proven to increase sexual stamina.
Masturbation Before Intercourse
A common control method used by many is to masturbate an hour or so before intercourse. This may help delay ejaculation during penetrative intercourse because of a shift in hormone levels that may slow down sex drive.
Temporarily Avoid Intercourse
You may also try avoiding intercourse altogether temporary. However, still engage in other sexual activity with your partner(s). It may help relieve the pressure and anxiety of performing during intercourse, especially if the cause of premature ejaculation is psychological.
“Climax control” condoms which contain numbing agents such as benzocaine or lidocaine, are now readily available over the counter and may decrease penis sensitivity. This, in turn, can help delay ejaculation. Another option is condoms made from thicker latex which again may decrease penis sensitivity.
Shut Down the Ejaculatory Reflex
If you feel that you are close to/at the point of ejaculation, take a deep breath which will briefly shut down the ejaculatory reflex.
Change of Sexual Position
Ensure you have sex with your partner on top. This will allow you to relax and for them to pull away when you are close to ejaculating.
Take Breaks During Sex
If you feel that you are close to ejaculation, you could take a break for around 20 – 30 seconds before starting again and repeat if necessary.
If there are no improvements after a couple of months, you may need to see a doctor or a counsellor. There may be a physical problem which needs to be investigated. There could even be a deeper emotional issue that needs addressing. This could either be through 1:1 sessions or via couples counselling.