The old cliche is completely true: You never get a second chance to make a first impression. This is especially apt in the case of a first date.
Your date’s first impression of you will determine whether they open up and give you a real shot or they secretly text their best friend to set up the go-ahead for an emergency save in an hour or less.
When it’s love at first sight on your part, you want to make the right impression on your first date. Here are 7 tips to help you look, act, and feel your best (because throwing up from the butterflies in your stomach is not the way to make a good impression) on your first date.
7 Impressive Ways to Make the Right First Impression
Ahhh, love. The reason for romance, flowers, and candlelight, and the reason men go to war and women develop gray hair and stress wrinkles. You can’t live with it but don’t want to live without it. It’s the ultimate emotion, and when you fall in love at first sight, you will do anything you can to make a good impression on your beloved.
Unfortunately, love also makes us stupid and blind to common sense. It’s a good thing there are so many helpful advice pages to guide you along your budding relationship. But how do you know how to narrow down the good advice from the meaningful but completely off track words of not-so-wise wisdom?
Here is everything you need to know to make the right first impression in a nutshell.
- Appearance isn’t everything, but it sure helps. Let’s face it. We have to use what the good Lord gave us, and not everyone was blessed with the body and face of a Greek god or goddess. But we can make the most of what we do have by taking care of our bodies, eating well, and always using proper hygiene techniques.
You never know when you’ll meet that special person, so you want to keep your game up to speed regularly. While it’s impossible to look our best all the time, it is expected on your first date.
Taking time to plan your outfit ahead, coordinate your accessories, and focus on your appearance sets a good impression on your date. Oh, and don’t forget to clean under your fingernails, too. Dirty nails are a definite first date faux pas.
- Show up with flowers. Sure, it’s cliche, and many women (and men) will probably roll their eyes at the corniness of it, but there’s a reason it’s a cliche – it works. Women have fallen for a properly timed bouquet of flowers over and over again for millennia and men are less willing to admit it, but they are just as touched by the act of flower-giving.
But you need to set the right tone. Red roses are often considered overboard, but snatching some weeds and a couple of flowers on your way and handing them to your date with the dirt still hanging on the roots is not the look you want to go for.
You can hit the grocery stores for a pre-made bouquet, but what if you grab something your date is allergic to? Oh, the potential for failure is exponential! How do you do this alone?
The answer is that you don’t. Instead, you check out professionals who do this for a living, like those at this page, and ask them for advice. Let them handle the details while you sweat your appearance (but not, you know, literally).
- Listen to hear, not to speak. If they have any sense of people skills, your date will be able to tell if you are really paying attention to them or just going through the motions. If you are simply waiting for a pause in the conversation so that you can insert something about yourself, you are probably not going to get a second date.
- And…don’t be an open book. Sure, you are in love. You were in love the first time you saw them. You want them to know everything about you – your history, your hopes and dreams, what a great catch they lucked into. But chances are they are still feeling you out and when you go in with overkill, not only are you not giving them a chance to speak, but you are taking all the mystery out of your relationship.
By the end of the night, it will be no mystery why your phone calls and texts never get answered again.
- Seriously. Put away your phone. If your date has to compete with your phone, your social media, even the latest baseball scores, they will figure out pretty quickly that they will always have to compete for your attention. Most self-respecting people do not want to be ignored for a phone, especially not on the first date.
- Make eye contact. There’s something kind of fishy to a lot of people about a person who can’t make eye contact with them. In some cases, it may be a condition that you have, in which case you will want to be straightforward about it (but not pitiful or self-deprecating – see below).
Making eye contact with your date shows confidence and respect. It shows that you see them as important and want to hear what they have to say. In fact, it’s one of the most important ways that relationships develop a passion and forward momentum.
- Above all, be confident. Probably the sexiest thing you can do is have confidence. No one – not one single person – wants to spend hours listening to their date lament the fact that they are overweight or are stuck in a dead-end job or are amazed that someone as good looking as their date is would ever agree to go out with them. (Although this sounds like a compliment, it’s not. Not even close.)
Instead, relay confidence in yourself through your actions and avoid self-deprecating talk. Don’t make jokes about going bald if you are, or being overweight if you are, or anything else that you are insecure about. They aren’t issues that need to be addressed on the first date.
Follow These Basic Tips to Your Best First Date
When you take these 7 tips and make them integral to your first date, you will make a great first impression no matter what happens afterwards. But beyond that initial date, keep the sparks flying by continuing to listen, having confidence, and sending flowers occasionally. You landed your true love, now you have to keep them!